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It is 8:30 on Monday night as I write this blog……  not cutting it close, are we?

It has been a crazy chaotic week; I have interviewed many secretarial candidates, a family member has been ill, and I have been struggling with who I am and where I want to go in the world. Interviewing secretaries did that to me, it forced me to re-evaluate my goals and priorities and values.

Anyway, please help us welcome our new secretary Nicole to the office; I think she is just the person I need. And of course, this choice making stuff brings me back to the food choices and my clients. So here is what I want to say to you today.

If you are reading this article, you have probably been struggling with food, eating, and body weight for a long time. You have probably tried every diet and weight loss program you encountered, and every one worked, to some degree for weight loss. But however long they worked, eventually they stopped working and you regained all the weight and then some. Or you went back to those self-destructive soul-sucking habits that you hate and cannot stop. And your obsessive mind goes round and round and other people say helpful things like, “Don’t you have ANY willpower?” and “It’s really very simple”, and “If you cut your calories you will lose weight”

What insensitive nonsense.

I think we have entirely gone down the wrong path with eating disorders, and other food and weight problems today. Obesity particularly, but the other weight problems too, are the symptom, the cause, or the result of some other problem. Until the other problem is acknowledged and treated, progress with food will be impaired or eliminated.

It’s like if you go to the doctor with an earache, and he says, “Yes, you have an ear infection” and he gives you a decongestant and a pain reliever. You will feel better for a short time, but the ear infection will still be there. Until and unless you get an antibiotic and real treatment for the infection, you will not be well.

If your weight problem is caused by simply eating too many calories, then yes, restricting your calories will solve the problem. But if the problem comes back again and again, you need to look at what the real problem might be.

And you need to look at the solution to that problem first. And it may not be able to be solved immediately, or in one fell swoop, but you may have to look at different ways of handling it. And, it’s my personal prejudice here, but, speaking rudely to yourself and criticizing your body shape and behavior, will NEVER NEVER help! I hate to listen to people who allow other voices in their heads to be rude to them. If you would not say this to your boss or your best friend, please do not say it to yourself!

Week by week, I hope to show you a way to find joy and freedom. I hope you will let me help you on this journey.

Blessings to you,



  1. Mimi September 25, 2018 at 10:40 am #

    I agree with Theresa %!! Care enough about yourself to be kind to yourself and take time to find out what lies behind the physical symptoms. You are worth it!! Thanks for taking the time to write & share these important messages, Theresa!

    • H. Theresa Wright October 1, 2018 at 12:07 am #

      You are welcome. I am so glad you enjoy them!

  2. LEONTYNE R STEELE September 25, 2018 at 6:01 pm #

    I can not tell you how much your posts help me. Sometimes they are just what I need, but may not necessarily want to deal with at the moment. I appreciate your candor and transparency. Thank you

    • H. Theresa Wright October 1, 2018 at 12:08 am #

      You are welcome. Call if you want/need help dealing with the stuff.

  3. Martha R. Wrigley,RD/LDN September 27, 2018 at 2:32 pm #

    Right on, Theresa! That’s why so many regain weight plus after gastric by-pass surgery.

    • H. Theresa Wright October 1, 2018 at 12:09 am #

      Yes, that can be true. If the real problem is not addressed, nothing will work. Thanks for writing.

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