Reality is what you think it is. If you decide you are “fat, stupid, and ugly”, your subconscious mind accepts your evaluation and remembers what you told it. It tells you to behave in a way that will keep you “fat, stupid, and ugly”, undermining your confidence and limiting your ability to choose and follow a course of action which will lead you to your real goal.
The same process works in reverse. Plant positive images in your mind and repeat positive thoughts to yourself. You can reprogram your subconscious mind to lead you to any success you want.
Negative thinking is a powerful long term habit. It takes time and effort to clear away the negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. It begins with a clear decision and is followed by lots of practice.
If you wouldn’t say it to your boss, best friend, or lover, please don’t say it to yourself. When you hear a negative thought, say the word “STOP!!” or the word “CANCEL!!”. Reject the thought and replace it with a positive affirmation. Repeat that affirmation until you are calm.
_ Assign your mind a positive attitude.
Speak to yourself in an encouraging way.
_ Choose your perspective
What do you say to yourself when you eat badly?
What else can you say that will be more helpful?
_ Belief determines behavior.
What you let yourself believe you are, determines how you will behave.
_ Make mental movies using positive self talk as your life script. Then live your movie.
Visualize upcoming events going well.
Imagine yourself achieving your goal.
Put yourself in the audience and see yourself accomplishing it without errors.
Plant it in your subconscious mind, directing it to lead you to your goal.
Invite your Higher Power to help you and to direct the movie, your actions, and the outcome.
_ Avoid negative people and negative attitudes.
Who in your life:
Always makes you feel down?
Scares you out of doing what you want to do?
Undermines your confidence?
Refuses to celebrate your successes?
Gets you thinking negatively about yourself?
Boundary the relationship.
Protect yourself with positive thoughts.
_ Expect acceptance
Convey an “I’m OK, you’re OK” attitude.
That means you’ll need to accept yourself!!
_ Realize: If you don’t manage it, it is likely to manage you. You are responsible both for your attitude and your behavior, and how you affect others. And you are able to change them with patience and hard work.
Lions Don’t Need to Roar
Warner Books 1992
“It all comes down to your own self-belief. If you believe you’re OK, one day you’ll wake up and find you truly are.”
Owner, The Seattle Mariners
To do what others expect, so they’ll love me, is to play it safe. As I grow, I become more willing to venture out of my safe cocoon. (For Today, p. 99)
In letting go, what do we have to lose except our own weakness? (Food for Thought, April 3)
I am choosing to take better care of my body.
This is my new way of living and eating.
I am choosing to change my food, eating, and other habits to create the life I want.
I deserve the life I want. Even if it does not seem true right now, I choose to become the person I was meant to be.
Through this struggle is where I will grow, and I am grateful for this guidance and experience.
I want to create a life that makes me happy.
I am becoming more courageous and willing to take risks for the things I want.
My life is full of possibilities; I can have or create a life that makes me happy.
In my struggles, I am discovering another piece of who I am meant to be.
I am meant to be strong, powerful, joyful, and full of love and life!
I am worth the love I have and the love that I will have.
I am learning to appreciate every moment of my life.
Please think about what you say to yourself, so that you can draw what you want into your life.