I spent three days in Phoenix last week at a meeting, and then I flew home late Thursday night so I could lead a retreat at the shore. The program I attended was excellent, but I had to leave halfway through. The retreat went really well, I think, and I enjoyed it. I think the people who came found it a really valuable program. And I especially appreciated all the help the attendees gave me with the mechanics of the food, and the chairs and books and so forth.
But it made me think serious thoughts.
I don’t ever want to do this again. I missed half the program in Phoenix, rushed around like a crazy woman for two weeks, and drove my secretary-and my daughter- who picked up the pieces – to the brink of sanity. Now, we all are fully exhausted.
But I will never do this to myself again. It will not lead me to the place I want to be.
One of the things I started asking the folk at the retreat, and now ask you is this, “What do you want your life to be like in the next two years? If you were not struggling with the food, eating, or body weight, what would you spend that brain time on?”
Food, eating, and body weight issues can take over our minds and our lives. Obsessions and cravings and negative thoughts grow larger and larger; meanwhile we are missing the opportunities to create in our lives the things we really want.
Now I really wanted the benefits of both these programs, but not THIS way. Now I am exhausted and sleep deprived and not happy with myself.
Rest is the most important part of self-care for me. It is not just sleep; it is doing the things I love to do and having the time to enjoy them. It is moving forward on the projects I want to create in my life (Have you seen my new book, The Abstinence Pendulum yet?) It is being able to take time with friends and family, to read a good book, to support a loved one in struggle, to sit on my front porch and enjoy a gorgeous afternoon. And it is to create, to write, both books and cookbooks. I have wanted to since 2005. It is time.
The past six months have been a bit of a struggle for me; I need to get back on track.
What do you really want in your life right now? Is your food plan enhancing your life? or driving you nutty? If you did not have to think about the food, what would you really want to draw into your life? Remember, if you aim at nothing, you are likely to hit it. So where do you want to go in the next two years? What problems do you need to solve and, if food is a problem, how could you solve that and get it out of your way?
And if you could change, create or become whatever you wanted, other than craving, obsession, food struggle free – what would that be? What is food keeping you from doing or growing in your life? and is that what you really want? What have you always promised yourself you would do, that you can’t do because of some impediment? How can we help you get really free?
Self-care means nourishing the body well, so you have the strength, energy, and brain-power to do what you want. It means treating the body with respect and support. It means exercise or movement of some sort to keep the body strong and healthy. It means managing the negative thoughts differently, and finding our own inner core of wisdom and our own life philosophy.
And for me, right now, it means keeping this short enough that I can get to bed early. Rest well and please write me with your thoughts and feelings about these issues. I love to read your comments. Share this with anyone you like, but remember that the internet is not a private place; I will share the comments here.
Blessings to you,