One of the things I notice most powerfully in my life and the lives of others, is that what we think about, how we allow our brains to ramble and obsess and criticize and judge, affects abstinence, as well as peace of mind. What ever I focus most strongly on, is drawn into my life.
If you have cravings and allow yourself to keep thinking about them, wishing for the food, wanting to be able to eat whatever you want, you will make following your food plan harder. A client once said to me, “My problem is that I can go three weeks or so, then I go off my food plan. I can’t stop it.” I noticed that she said this regularly to herself and other people. And I noticed that the situation repeated itself in her daily life.
For anything you want in your life, a healthy body, rewarding work, freedom from addictions, friends who love you, you must create a mental image. The mental images you review again and again will call into motion the forces of the Universe to create whatever you are thinking about. The secret of mental freedom and successful living is to focus on the mental image of what you want and to get rid of the image of what you do not want. You do this by thinking with clarity, definiteness, and interest.
We who seek” knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry it out”, check out our desires with our Higher Power. We ask that our desires be changed to be in agreement with God’s will for us. Then we begin to consciously live in the solution.
If you want health, happiness, and prosperity, you must focus on those things and not on their opposites. If you want a deeper relationship with your Higher Power, focus your thoughts on the image of God and the things of God. If you want food freedom, focus on that.
How do you get rid of the negative mental image? Supply the opposite. The positive thought automatically replaces the negative thought. Thinking of health removes the thought of illness.
What you concentrate on you will bring into your life. Concentration is not will power; it is focus. The secret of getting what you want is clarity of focus.
Many of you know that one of my favorite authors is Wayne Dyer. He always said that the subconscious mind sees it as its job to get us whatever we ask for. So, especially in the few minutes before we fall asleep, he recommends we pay close attention to our thoughts. Talk to your body or mind. Be positive. Tell it what you really want in your life. The subconscious mind will “marinate” on these directions and set in motion the process of getting you what you ask for. So stop telling yourself what you dislike about yourself or your behavior, especially at night! Often, we find difficulty doing this. The solution is to creatively use affirmations.
Affirmations are powerful tools for changing the addictive mind’s habitual thoughts. To be effective, an affirmation must be:
- Positive – without negative words or qualifiers
- Present tense – not past or future
- Believable – for you, right now
It helps to make the affirmation
- Focused on your current goal
- Less than ten words long
- Specific or meaningful to your behavior
You will grow more rapidly if you change your affirmations regularly. Make them stronger as you grow. Perhaps you want to become strong, skilled and determined, but you do not see yourself as skilled yet. You might say:
I am willing to learn new skills; then progress to:
I am learning new skills;
I am practicing my new skills daily;
I am using my skills;
I am becoming skilled; and finally,
I am skilled.
Take a single problem in your life. Change your mind. Change your focus. Keep it changed consistently for thirty days. Look at the results. Clarify your focus. Look at the results.
Send me your five favorite affirmations and I will share them.
Have a really good week.
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Blessings to you,