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Many people resist weighing and measuring their food. It seems somehow discriminatory, embarrassing, humiliating to need to do that. So, this week’s topic is about the big bugaboo – why we need to weigh and measure.

First, please realize that weighing and measuring is not unusual or shameful in our world. Anything we buy is weighed, measured, and counted. If you buy a tankful of gasoline, it is measured. If you buy a new pair of shoes, they have a measurement/ a size.  If I mail a letter or package, it is weighed.

Every food product in a grocery store has been weighed, measured, and/or counted.  In a restaurant, the food is purchased by weight, so that there will be enough for the people expected tonight.

I love to knit; if I buy yarn, the weight (width) of the yarn is measured, the length of the yarn in a ball is measured, and the number of balls needed for my project are counted.

Every board, piece of sheet rock and just about everything else in your house was measured- how else can you be sure it will stand?

Why must I weigh and measure?

“I don’t want to weigh and measure” says my client. “It’s embarrassing and demeaning to do that – my husband will make fun of me if I do it at home, and I would NEVER want to embarrass myself by weighing and measuring food in public!”

“And weights and measures confuse me. Nothing I weigh has the right measurements. And I don’t want to walk around hungry, and deprived, and not being able to get enough food to satisfy me”.

Okay, let’s hold up a minute and relax. This is a problem we will solve together. Take a few deep breaths and let’s begin at the beginning.

Every molecule, or atom is counted by your body.  Every Carbon in a glucose chain is counted. Every Phosphorus atom is counted. Why? Because the body uses each one to create energy, or build a cell wall.  I use calculations to account for everything the body needs to create beautiful hair, muscle tissue, strong bones, effective brain cells and so much more!

When you weigh and measure you can be assured that your body is getting every little molecule it needs to help return you to the right weight for your height and shape; to repair the damage that yo-yo diets and unhealthy eating has caused.

Do you remember when we first started working together, we talked about your eating problems as a sensitivity, or allergy, to processed and refined foods?  Now you need a different balance of protein, fat, carbohydrate, vitamins and minerals to restore your balance.  When you weigh and measure, you can tell your inner critic that you are doing EXACTLY what your body needs; and that they can go bother someone else.  It also assures your therapist, sponsor, or other trusted advisors that they don’t have to worry about the food abuse and can help you with your thoughts, feelings and irrational thinking and self-destructive behaviors.

Some around you may be upset- or even embarrassed- by your change. Having watch you flip from one diet to another, they are likely to roll their eyes and say, “Oh another one!” You will need to prove to them by your long-term consistent behavior that this is for real.  I promise, that with the use of my “magic math” you WILL NOT feel deprived, or hungry, or craving.  Weighing and measuring almost guarantees that the body is getting what it needs.

There will come a time when you probably will not need to weigh and measure every food, in a restaurant, or at your grandson’s Bar Mitzvah.   You will always have to manage the volume of food and the proportions you use for your meals and snacks.  I recommend my clients weigh everything they eat through the first six months of abstinence and a fourth and fifth step or other emotional assessment.  Then your mind’s eye changes and you now have a perspective of food that is different and healthier.

Next week, I will talk about strategies and tools for weighing and measuring easily and comfortably and without a lot of fuss. Be welcome to share this with anyone you think will benefit- your husband, non-support people included. 😊

Please email me what you find the hardest to deal with about weighing and measuring.  You may find your answer in next week’s blog!

Blessings to you,


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  1. Judy Pellegrino February 27, 2019 at 12:39 pm #

    I want to validate what Theresa said about weighing and measuring.

    Back in 1998 I started weighing & measuring my food using the food plan I was given By Theresa.

    My husband & sons wanted to go under the table
    when we went out to eat. It took time for them to
    Recognize my commitment. They grew to respect
    my healthy life style.

    Over the years they started to make sure that
    where we go to eat I can get an abstinent meal. Now a days they actually cook, weigh and measure my abstinent dinner so I can get to meetings after work.

    I laugh out loud now that we weigh my beagles food.

    Change isn’t easy. Weighing & measuring might seem
    “Rigid & over the top” to others. I felt a freedom I never had around the food by weighing & measuring.

    Another benefit of weighing & measuring helped me to realize when I wanted to eat & the amount of food that kept me satisfied for a long time suddenly didn’t, I knew something was eating me & I needed to reach out, write about it, do some step work, or get to a meeting.

    20 years later, I still weigh & measure my food so my obsession of the mind doesn’t creep back. I also weigh & measure to keep the body image mind game away.
    I can feel fat if I eat a little more & look too skinny if I eat less food. Weighing & measuring is way easier to me.

    Hope this helps

    Judy P.

    • H. Theresa Wright March 7, 2019 at 2:24 am #

      Thank you so much for writing this! I will talk more about this next week, but the part that is so important is to realize, that you expressed so beautifully, is that it takes TIME for the other members of your famiyt to understand the benefits and become comfortable with your behavior. Thanks for writing.

  2. Melanie Kaneff March 7, 2019 at 10:19 pm #

    I’ve weighed and measured… sometimes! The times I stopped this practice were either because (a) I knew that one ounce of cheese – or however many ounces I planned to have – would never be enough; the truth is, because cheese is a trigger food, probably only eating it until oblivion would have sufficed and (b) every scale I’ve ever purchased sooner or later started acting crazy and stopped working. Every single one! One of those scales I had gotten from your office Theresa, and you had told me to bring it back… But I had already thrown it out. I think over the years I have had quite a few scales; The last one I purchased in October at bed bath and beyond, and I have not used it for months because… Yep, it stopped working. Clearly, I kill scales as well as plants! But I agree… weighing and measuring to me means 100% surrender and commitment.

    • H. Theresa Wright March 9, 2019 at 3:16 pm #

      Well, we need to look at this issue! The scales are not supposed to die like that! Could the deaths of the scales be related to surrender and commitment? What will help you now?

  3. Melanie March 12, 2019 at 4:28 pm #

    OK so after reading your blog and your reply, I dug out the last scale that died and lo and behold… Resurrection! It had not died at all, it must have just been cantankerous. So I am weighing my fish again (since besides eggs, that’s my main protein source) and yes, it is enlightening. And I do feel more structured and proactive and self-caring just doing this one thing.

    • H. Theresa Wright March 13, 2019 at 1:27 am #

      AHA! The miracle of the Resurrection!!!!!! Tell us how it feels and works for you!

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