Hello! Happy New Year!
This is a picture of the last moon of 2020, December 31. It was taken by my friend Joe and he gave me permission to share it with you. Is it not beautiful?
Now we are in the vortex…the end of the last year and the beginning of the next one. Let this be a turning point for you. Let the struggle and pain of last year take its place in your heart and let the joys blossom. Now we get time to enjoy whatever we have accomplished, and to lead ourselves into the transformation we desire.
Last year was quite a unique year. Between the pandemic, the election, the many closures and restrictions, and all the protests and unrest, there has been a lot of chaos. And as I write this, there is even more chaos at the Capital Building! But times of upheaval and chaos are a wonderful opportunity to change OUR world! And it starts with us, and makes our own transformations even more essential.
For people with food issues, it may have been harder than usual to stay on track with your recovery program. Now that we have entered the transition to 2021, I am hoping that we can move away from much of the trauma and go back to paying attention to our own lives and our own goals. This is important because whatever we focus our thoughts on is likely to come true in our lives.
First, consider your WHY. What is it that you most want to accomplish and WHY? Will this goal lead you to the positive transformation you desire, and is it something that is in your control?
What kinds of goals will help you and me do that?
They are stated positively.
They are written down in a place where we see them regularly through the day.
They are specific and relevant and measurable.
They will help you move towards your WHY.
Keep your goal list short, maybe only five items, focus only on things you can control, and small enough to be able to do regularly. Ask yourself if you feel resistance to any of the goals and why.
One of my concerns with this is that people often sacrifice the self-care they need to work on the goals they set for themselves. Be reasonable please. If this goal fits with your lifestyle and is a continuation of something you have been working on, it may fit well. If it demands that you sacrifice parts of your life that you value, look closer and make an adjustment.
And please leave the perfectionism in some place safe and comfortable for her, but do not let her in here to mess with the things you really want in your life. The goals you set are sacrosanct; stay focused on what you really want. If your goal is one at which you have repeatedly failed, then re-examine your approach; something is wrong here; if it is not working, let’s find the real problem and fix that first!
Write your goals in a special place; maybe a journal or a file in your computer. Take time to really think about what you really want to achieve. Then check in with yourself regularly and monitor your progress. Mistakes happen; try to see what went wrong and move forward. Please don’t give up.
Focus on goals that fill you with positive emotions. I know that you have heard me say, probably many times, that what you say when you talk to yourself is what comes true in your life. So, talk to yourself about the transformation you are seeking and invite the people, books, and situations into your life to help you.
To my dear clients and friends;
As we celebrate the new year, we welcome some good things and weep over some difficulties.
As I look to the kinda of programs to do this winter and spring, would you help me? Would you tell me what you would like to work on? Here are some suggestions, but I am willing to work on whatever you might like. Please respond in the comments section, or call or email me.
Thanks so much for your help and Blessings To You,
Abstinence Basics; creating the plan
Finding food freedom
Acceptance, Power, and Surrender
Stumbling blocks into stepping stones
Support: create5ing your posse of trusted advisers
Feelings: How do we deal and stay Abstinent
Food and Self-Esteem
Top Ten Traps: Pitfalls and Strategies
Spirituality; finding your place
Food, Fear, Faith
Nourish your body, soothe your spirit
Five steps out of relapse
Passages in recovery: Life beyond food.
Thank you so much for your support and opinions!!!!