For me, the most difficult time of the year has always been the time between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day. It’s the end of a year and the beginning of a fresh new year. There are lots of religious days, party days, decorations, gifts, and many things to be done to close out the year, even my business, tiny as it is, comes up with thirty-two requirements and things that need to be found, added, or clarified. What can we do to get what we need and have a sane and happy holiday? And what do we need to do to keep control of our food recoveries and all that we have worked for this year?
This holiday stress is simply unacceptable for our health and well-being, and recovery. Some stress is good, it keeps us moving. Too much Stress makes us more susceptible to both common illnesses and serious diseases. Managing holiday stress is really important. It can literally change your life.
I’m sure you have heard me say, “If you aim at nothing, you will surely hit it!”
So, sit back with me and think about this for a moment. Imagine today is January 15, 2022 and you are thinking back over the holiday just passed. What would you be happiest about? What will you wish you had not done? Which present should you have bought – or not bought? Which party could you have skipped? Or not skipped? And what could you have done that would have enhanced your recovery in this time?
I bet you are feeling overwhelmed just thinking about it. How will we ever make it through this holiday with our sanity, sobriety, abstinence and recoveries intact???
Take a deep breath.
‘TIS THE SEASON FOR EXCELLENT SELF CARE!!!
Take a deep breath. Give yourself three goals. And stay focused on them.
Sit with me for a minute here. In January, what will you be glad you did? Do that.
In January, what will you really want to have accomplished in these six weeks? Set up your December to allow time for that.
In January, what will you wish you had not done? Cross it off your calendar. Do what is needed to prevent that.
HOW TO SELF_CARE
Learning selfcare is a process of learning what to do and how to do it well, that most of us were not taught as children. (Now giving up what I need to do, to do something for you, that’s something I was taught well!) Learning selfcare is a process that takes time. Planning everything for the holidays, especially your food, in a way that pleases you, is a part of learning this selfcare process.
What are your three goals?
Try little steps. Go to bed a half hour earlier or take an afternoon nap. Go for a walk where the air is clean and Mother Nature is showing her wonders. Do you need more time alone or more time with the right people? Plan out your food to deal with one special event. Figure out how to spend your energy in ways that will improve your wellbeing, not hurt it. (Order the gifts on line – unless you LIKE crowded malls!) Say, “no” to at least one thing you don’t want to do during the holiday season.
Stay focused on your three goals.
Remember, self-care is not selfish. It’s not self-centered. Self-care is leadership. It’s essential that you take care of the body, mind and spirit that you’ve been given. This is how you can thrive and contribute. Give yourself permission and power to enjoy these precious weeks, rather than doing as everyone else expects.
In twenty-eight days, this season will all be over. Let yourself enjoy every day. Take time to do what really nourishes your spirit. Take time to be good to YOU.
And I hope you make those three goals!
Blessings to you,