Do you believe that Labor Day is only eight weeks away?
One of the things that the pandemic has changed for me, is my perception of the way time has flown. 2021 is more than half over already! Labor Day is only eight weeks away, and then the fall and fall activities will begin!
I am still feeling like it should be March or April!
So, it is important to me to look at how I am living my life, and what I am accomplishing, and what I am not accomplishing.
I talked to three new clients this week. They have all been on the diet/binge merry-go-round for years. They have all lost their weight, and regained it, more than once, and are now reaching out to me to try again.
It makes me sad. And determined to help. But there is a bigger problem here. We are on the wrong track with obesity treatment in America today. We are looking only at the symptom, not the problem. The reality is a calorie in is NOT a calorie out! And it is not your fault that you have this problem with food. You are not fat or stupid or ugly; or hopeless, useless, or a failure, or without enough willpower.
Eighty percent of the food in our grocery stores is refined, processed, or man-made. Companies have departments of people whose job it is to find the cheapest way to get you to the “bliss point” when you are really enjoying the taste of the food and do not want to stop. And the packaging is set up to easily allow you to eat more than one serving, unthinkingly. Or if you did count or measure, the food is designed to make that be not enough.
And again, we are all individuals. And the food plan that works for one of us might not work as well as for the other of us.
We cannot solve the problems with the same solution for everyone, but I want you to realize that our brains have been changed by this struggle. There are sixty different kinds of little nerve-like objects called neurotransmitters in the human brain. Part of the answer is determined by which neurotransmitters have been changed or shut down by our eating and other behaviors. And these neurotransmitters have a major effect on our feelings and behaviors.
I’ll write more clearly on this in another post, but what I want to explore today is this: your weight problem and repeated diets create a physical change in your brain and body that affect your appetite and cravings for certain foods. This is physical and it is not your fault. Some of it may also be genetic in origin.
I am suggesting that you do four things in the next eight weeks:
- What would give you joy? Go to the beach if you want to. Wear a light coverup if you feel more comfortable. But go enjoy the sun and the sand. Or connect yourself with an old friend. Or pick up a hobby you used to enjoy. Make time for you to do as you wish, Enjoy these eight weeks. They will never return.
- What would you really like, besides freedom from the food, to create in your life? And what would you need to do to start getting both?
- And please, stop beating yourself up. Stop saying rude things to yourself. Stop blaming the body for looking like it does.
- Spend some time in peaceful thought about what you want in your life, what you need in your life that is not food, about how you want your life to change. If you wish, send me your list and I will use these blogs to answer the questions, or maybe make a program that could help you.
And what would you really need to have happen in order to get free?
If I wanted to see you have real freedom from sugar and all its problems, what would need to happen? What could I do to help? And if you were free, what kind of life would you choose?
Tell me, and let’s go do that.
Blessings to you,