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The Second Half of January

An Interesting Notice

Dr Lustig will be speaking at Ocean County Library on January 30, at 2 PM.  Here is the notice which allows for virtual reservations:

His topic is The Lure and the Lies of Processed Food, Nutrition, and Modern Medicine: An Author Talk with Dr. Robert Lustig


The Second Half of January

Wow! Take a deep breath with me! We have made it through safely to 2024!

 Now what?

More than half of Americans believe that the concept of New Year’s resolutions is outdated, according to new research. Few of us keep going through January and over half of us stop or move on by mid-March

But there is a difference between new year’s resolutions and real goals. When we have a goal – going to college and becoming a lawyer, for instance, it becomes a focus of our lives; we pay attention to what is needed and what will help, and we turn away from ideas or suggestions that keep us from moving toward what we really want.

I have said for years, that obesity and eating disorders are not about the food; they are the symptom, the cause or the result of some other issue or problem. Until we find and resolve the real issue behind our eating/weight problem, we cannot create true freedom from the issue.

If I go to my family doctor with pain in my ear, and he gives me a decongestant and a pain reliever, I will feel better right away. But if the problem is an ear infection, it will return with frequency and ​increased power, again and again. Until we solve the real problem with an effective antibiotic, the symptoms will not go away.

So, it is with the food issues. If you have tried every diet and expensive program out there, and all of them worked for a short time but the weight returned; then you probably were not addressing the source of the problem. Just as the decongestant and pain reliever did not cure the bacterial infection in your ear, whatever you have tried did not cure the food problem.

This is not about your strength or courage or willpower or commitment. It is about treating the real problem.

We don’t need any more resolutions or promises or diets …we need real solutions to make ourselves feel better, look better and have food freedom. This will give us the power to make our bodies, minds, and spirits whole again, and hopefully we can then make the world a better place.

I was yattering to a friend about this, and she said to me, “OK, Theresa, I challenge you. You are telling me about all the things you want to do and change in this new year. In the next week, I want you to write a schedule, by month, of all the things you want to accomplish in this year. Put them in order and assign them a place – a day or week or month – so you will know when you are on track or not.”

Sometimes, I talk about what I do not want to do to get over my resistance to acceptance of the problem. Sometimes I do not know what or how to fix it. Sometimes, I need support, inspiration, or physical help.  And sometimes, the job is just too scary, or feels impossible or overwhelming, or I do not really want to do it.

Self care is like that for me. As a flaming codependent, I cannot seem to take care of myself if there are other jobs that could, should, or must be done. Especially the personal things like taking a nap or having lunch with friends or reading a novel.  The something else always needs to come first.

But that does not work for us longterm. If we do not take care of ourselves first, we lose the most important thing we want – US.

There is a photo on my computer; it says, “The most dangerous risk of all is spending your life not doing what you really want to do on the bet that you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” And if I lose that bet, what will I have lost?

The things that are most precious to me. The things I most wanted to make, do, or accomplish. The health and well-being of my body, mind, and spirit. Freedom from self-abuse with food or thoughts or other drugs.

What is it that you most want in your life in 2024? What would you like to leave behind in 2023? Set your goals, not your resolutions. Stay focused on what you really want, not on what you think you should do, or cannot do.

I am going to need help to fill my desires for the new year. What I need to do is find other people with the skills and support to guide me to my goals. We do not do certain things because we don’t know how, resist, fear, or convince ourselves we don’t deserve them. And many other reasons.

So, tell me, what are your goals for this new year and what is the help you need? I will be happy to help you know how to find that help, help you myself, or send you to others who have the answers. And I will be asking for help as well.

​Blessings to you,


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