This blog is published on November 19, 2019.
Thanksgiving will be on November 28, 2019, in eight days.
Winter Solstice is on December 21, in 33 days.
Christmas will occur on December 25, 2019, in 37 days
2020 begins on January 1, in 44 days.
Whatever your religion, whatever your situation, these holidays will occur on schedule. What I want to talk to you today of course, is how do you want them to be for you and your family and friends, and your food plan? Perhaps for your employer as well.
What do you really want these holidays to be like for you? What were they like last year? Were they peaceful, generous, and loving? Or were there a few unpleasant disagreements? Were you able to follow your food plan, or were you exhausted and overwhelmed enough to just throw in the towel?
Now I know you have heard me say these two sentences over and over:
If you aim at nothing, you will surely hit it!
Whatever you focus on in your mind, you will draw into your life.
So please sit down quietly, pick up a pen or pencil, and write out three to five things you want for this holiday season. Make them positive and present tense. That is, “I don’t want to feel so exhausted and overwhelmed like last year” and “Aunt Susie’s attitude really angered me” these get changed to “I choose to plan my time to give me enough rest and relaxation time” and “I am no longer allowing myself to get upset at Aunt Susie’s words or deeds.”
Now the next thing I want you to do is to look at a calendar and sort of map out in your mind what activities are likely to occur and what you need to plan for.
Make a long list and go to BJ’s or Costco or whatever store you like: buy all the nonperishable items you will need for yourself and your family till January —about the tenth of January – toothpaste, shampoo, makeup, shaving cream. Laundry detergent, dish detergent, paper towels – you know what your family uses. Buy a big roll of tinfoil, too.
I often use paper plates – the good, high quality kind – for the meal. If I don’t get to buying them this week, they will be gone. And wrapping paper and gift boxes and labels and SCOTCH TAPE if you will need them.
And the foods they always run out of, if you are cooking.
Then stop at one of the stores that sells evergreen products and buy something that has a smell you love and is small enough and appropriate enough to sit on your desk. Smells are very, very triggering to my clients; we need to take steps to manage them.
If you find yourself repeating old messages to yourself, take a moment to center yourself. Remember who you are and who you want to become. Repeat the affirmations we wrote earlier. Put a note in a place you will see it often, to remind yourself.
This is a difficult journey. You are awesome for even attempting it. Give yourself credit for your hard work.
When the wonderful holiday foods come into your office and into your breakroom, cover them with your tinfoil “to keep them fresh”. Add a sticky note saying “Charlies special Cheesecake” and “Anna’s Christmas brownies” so people can have what they want.
Call in your Reinforcements. Touch base with the members of your support group and ask who will be in town and available, so you know who you can reach easily. It’s ok to ask for help. We do not need to handle things on our own any more. Ask for the help you need.
Give thanks. We all have many blessings in our lives. Make a list of five each day and share them. Say thank you. Hold the door for someone, let that road hungry driver in – you are safer if he is in front of you anyway.
And whatever spiritual practice you have or don’t have – re-evaluate it. The next forty-four days are sacred times in many different ways for different people. Do what you think is best for your spiritual practice, and make changes if needed.
Plan what you want spiritually for forty-four days, and be welcome to share it with us here.
And if you have other tips and tricks for getting through the holiday season, please feel free to share them in the comments.
Blessings to you,