There are so many blessings in our lives that sometimes we forget to count them! We tend to stay focused on the things that are different from every other year, impossible to have, require extra work and planning, and being aware of COVID hanging over our heads!
I want to try in this blog to give you some strategies for handling these situations; but there are so many possibilities, some of it was hard to choose.
But first and foremost, please, please, please do whatever you must to protect yourself from this nasty COVID virus! We hear the newscasts, but it is not something many of us have seen or experienced first-hand. I won’t tell you how awful it can be, but please wear your mask, wash your hands, clean the surfaces. And don’t just wave a towel at them; the virus is microscopic; take the energy to reach the corners. Please. You are too precious to me to take a chance.
Now the changes we have to make. Six feet apart? C’mon gramma’s house is not that big! Change the day? It won’t feel like Thanksgiving on Friday! Only half the family? Are you kidding me?
Boundaries come in several levels. There are smooth, easy, flexible boundaries, there are the firmer boundaries, there are the seriously firm boundaries and then there are the barbed wire boundaries. All of us have some of these in many areas of our lives. I bet you don’t hug strangers on the street, and I don’t let the lovely lady who cleans my teeth, put her fingers in my mouth when we are in a department store!
What level of boundaries do you need this weekend? It may vary by situation and person, but there are some common areas:
Respect for others’ feelings. If Mama has had thanksgiving dinner for forty years, understand this will be hard for her. Can she make the pies, and can you pick them up from the front porch, then call to tell her how delicious they were?
Care for the numbers and kinds of people together. If we have to limit to ten or less, make the limits count by putting the family members together who love each other.
And can we find some compassion? Send Aunt Julie a singing Halloween card; if she never saw one before, it will light up her day. And who would love a flower bouquet?
Call the family members you aren’t so close with to see how they are doing. Zoom has enlarged its platform for this weekend; let’s make use of it.
In every family there is a person who lives alone and gets left out. Don’t let that happen. Call, Zoom, drop off a little gift. It will mean so much.
Father Bill, who used to be the religious leader at the Caron foundation, always said, “Whatever the problem, the answer is love”. Show your love this weekend.
And make some time to spend with your Higher Power – the force of the Universe who loves you and me.
I’ll be here all weekend, call or write if you need me. The class that starts this Tuesday will be about boundaries (especially work boundaries, they are the worst) and about handling the rest of the holidays to meet your needs. Call Jen or me if you’re interested.
Have a beautiful, blessed weekend.
And blessings to you, especially,