Sometimes we have issues in our lives that we don’t want to deal with. We’d rather ignore them, hide them under the rug, run away from them, or dive into the food.
None of this works. Baby steps. When you see the problem starting, it is time to step forward and take care of it. If you leave it, hoping it will go away and leave you alone, rest assured it will grow into a vicious creature and come up to bite you. Baby steps.
Some weeks ago, we were talking about the rumble strips on your highway. If you respond the first time the rumble strips shake your car, it’s more likely you won’t get into an accident or have another problem. If you wait, the chances of escape get smaller.
Our relapses start with a look, a word, a thought, a choice. We ignore the warning signs and get ourselves into big trouble. Most of the time, we never identified the warning signs, looked for them, or wanted to know what to look for. We loosened our requirements for “abstinence” to give ourselves the freedom…. to do what? To be more comfortable? To try out new behaviors? Or to ignore the problem we did not want to deal with? It is really important that you be meticulous about protecting yourself.
I’ve had two unique weeks, here. One on vacation in Fort Lauderdale, and one home, terribly sick, with a bad cold. Both of them have told me things about myself and my life choices that I really did not want to hear. And others I trust have told me this same thing that I need to attend to. Baby steps.
When I see a problem in my life, I need to look at how to handle it early on. Maybe I can keep it from getting bigger. If the credit card is charged over its limit, I need to fix that before I go buy new shoes. If I hear a “drip, drip” in the basement, I had better go find the source.
When you find yourself sniffing the chocolate chip cookies, look at what is happening. When you find yourself romanticizing a food you know will harm you, take action. Say a prayer, call a friend, sing “Mary Had a Little Lamb.”
Now look at where you need to go or what you need to do, or who you need to reach out to, to get the right help for your situation.
I hate to ask for help. I hate to admit that I cannot do it all, and perfectly to boot. When I have to go to my husband or daughter and ask them to make the computer obey me, I hate that. But it empowers me, too, if I make sure I learn HOW to make this silly machine obey, so I won’t need help so often.
But we also need to be careful about WHO we ask for help. This has to be someone who has proven trustworthy in the past. It needs to be someone who has wisdom and experience in my issue. And, for me, it needs to be someone who won’t laugh or tease me later, or talk about me to others.
And the sooner I ask for this help, the less help I will need, and the better the outcome is likely to be. Baby steps.
Have a healthy blessed week, and stay on track with the things that are important to you.
Blessings to you,