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SURRENDER

The real problem in food recovery is the surrender. You don’t want to let others know what you eat; you have been doing a masterful job of it (is that why you are still 75 lbs. overweight?)  You don’t want a food plan that takes out your favorite binge and drug foods; you just want a way to eat them in normal amounts. You don’t want to have a scale control your portions. You have been too hungry in the past. You have been overstuffed in the past. You just want to feel ok, look ok, be ok.

And most of all, you want to feel normal!

I wish I could do that for you. I wish I had a magic wand that would take away all your pain and suffering. But I will give you what I have and hope it helps.

For some of us, from what we inherited from our parents, or what happened or what we learned in childhood, high school, college, or early adulthood, our body changed the way it handles refined and processed food. Because of this, our bodies changed the way our brains respond to certain foods. This unique response has led us down a path we did not want to go. It led us to a place where we were in a constant battle with food, eating, and body weight.

Now I want us to begin the process of creating a life that works for you. You need a food plan that fits; and then you need the power to follow it.

Last week’s topic was about weighing and measuring, before that we talked about committing.

What I hear from my clients is they don’t want to do that because it feels like failure to them.  “I am back to being a little girl, letting my mommy or some other powerful person hold me in check, because I am too weak to do that myself.”

No no no no no!!! This is about being accountable, not about being shamed. When I go to physical therapy for my ankle, the therapist asks me how often I did the exercises, and how they felt, so she will know what to do with me today.

Weighing and measuring and committing your food are the same process. It gives us the basis for knowing how long and how far we can go. And it keeps us focused on doing the thing that is hard for us to get ourselves to do. That I did all my exercises shows me that I can. And if I cannot, then it lets me see where I need help.

I promise you, this is the path to freedom. Finally, you can know how much the body needs from your food plan, and by weighing and measuring you can provide it. You can use the scale to move your body to your normal weight. You will always have enough and you will never have to worry or struggle about it again. Won’t that be a treat?

I want to talk about how to nourish the body well, so that all its needs are met and it can become healthy and strong and normal weight. And I want to talk about shopping, packing, and preparing food. Between now and then, I want you to look for safe places to buy your food. Fruit and veggies come from the produce stand, you know, and meat comes from the meat market.

Today I was in a store that sells linens, quilts, towels, that sort of item. One whole corner of the store held high calorie, refined and processed foods. And, adding insult to injury, to get to the cashier, you had to walk down two aisles, stocked with these foods. It was like walking through a minefield.

And why would a store do that? Money, of course! These refined, processed foods are made from the cheapest possible ingredients and sold at prices high enough to give the store bigger profits! Don’t let yourself be tricked by that. You deserve better. You deserve real food, the way Mother Nature planned for us to eat.

Find some safe places to shop or consider ordering for pickup. Next week, we will talk more about this and how to choose the foods.

Blessings to you,

Theresa

p.s. – This was a comment on last week’s blog. This is what I hope and wish for you.

“I’ve been working a food plan and weighing and measuring my food for almost 30 years. I’m at a healthy weight, and it has remained consistent +/- 10 lbs. the entire time, and for that, I am truly grateful. No matter how busy or crazy my life gets, my food plan has been sane as long as I’m willing to do what I need to do. Since my food has been stable, one day at a time, it has allowed me to use the 12 Steps to get some sanity in the remaining areas of my life. It does work if I work at it!”

Matt Y.

2 Responses to SURRENDER

  1. Kara Marziali June 26, 2018 at 4:22 pm #

    There is a good reason why the web address for Renaissance Nutrition Center is sanefood.com.

    We can live a well-balanced, healthy life amid the confusion, enticement, and addiction to food.

    I was a slave to my compulsive eating and was a chronic dieter. My life was unmanageable and I was in the throes of a horrible addiction. There was NO sanity around my food until I met Theresa, established a plan of eating, committed it to a sponsor, and worked the 12 Steps.

    Today I have a peaceful coexistence with my food and my body, one day at a time. It is a miracle!

    There is so much HOPE in the recovery process, and I “beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start.”

    • H. Theresa Wright June 27, 2018 at 12:57 am #

      Thank you for your incredible honesty, and your appreciation of my work. Blessings to you.

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