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Last blog, we talked about stress: how hard it is to manage and how stressful our lives have become. I gave you some suggestions about managing stress, and this week I want to talk about taking care of ourselves.

Self-care is not Selfish!

Self-care means taking the time to meet our own needs, hopefully without hurting others in the process. It means we put a priority and a value on doing what needs to be done for our bodies, minds, and spirits.

That could mean, I get time to go to the grocery or to order my groceries and pick them up. (What a nifty idea!) I get time to plan and prepare my meals, and to clean up afterwards. I get time to sit down and EAT my meal in peace. (That might mean, that yes, the boss has to wait for fifteen minutes to talk with me! OOPS!)

It means we make time for our recovery programs. It’s hard to get to three or four or seven meetings a week, talk to a sponsor every day, plan and commit the food, do the stepwork and give service. It takes a balancing act.

And fit in exercise! And time to relax and do the things we love.

And importantly, we need time for prayer and our spiritual connection with the Higher Power. It is so easy to let this slide and we suffer so much when we do!

There are times when we need time for ourselves. Time to take care of stuff we need, time to be with someone we love, time for asking for advice or help, or for prayer and meditation or other recovery activities. Or just time to be. Or time to cry.

We need to take that time.

We need to feel that blessing.

We need to trash the negative self talk and body talk.

We need to look at where our lives are going, and ask ourselves if we are happy with that, and if not, what changes we need to make.

It is not your job in life to sacrifice yourself, your rights, your health, and your happiness for the betterment of someone else who does not even care enough to say “Thank you!”.

Sometimes it is hard to decide to just take care of ourselves anyway. More than one client has told me that he/she avoids drinking water during the day because of the demands of his/her employment. That makes me sad and angry. We ought to be able to take care of ourselves at work. We need to be able to take personal time when the body needs it.

But let’s look again at what you really want, what you are hungry for, in your life and how you are going to create that situation for yourself.

Focus on the positive with me here. What are the changes you really want to make in your food life? And what kind of time, energy, and commitment is that going to take?

Choose one change you want to make in your food life.

And set a reminder that this is your commitment. It will sound silly to some of you, but hang a note on the wall, change the home screen on your computer, wear a different piece of jewelry or clothing, or do as I do – try not to laugh too hard please – I change the color of my nail polish to a shade I never wear – every time I see my hands, they remind me of my intention!

Talk to five other people you trust, who are doing what you want to do. Ask them to tell you how they do it. And ask them to tell you WHY they do it. What is the benefit for them?

For instance, weighing and measuring. Most people think its an annoying useless requirement and struggle with getting their food weighed or measured some days. But there are good reasons for this. One is to be sure we are meeting the body’s nutrient needs. When we were in the food, we usually didn’t. And this is a change. The second is that recovery usually demands a change in the proportions of protein, fat, and carbohydrate. This may mean we need more fat, not less. The third is that people with addictions often have other medical problems that need to be adjusted for, and a fourth reason may be changing your weight.

And when we consider all these, it makes sense to check the quantities of the foods we eat to be sure we have it right. Please tell me how you feel about weighing and measuring – what foods are hard to handle, or you have questions about or what part of this you struggle with, and I will answer your concerns in future blogs.

As I look back on my blog topics for the past year, I have decided I want to talk about the food more. So what foods are hard for you to measure or handle? Which ones do you struggle with? What foods should we talk about first? Which labels do you not understand? How do you know which ketchup to pick? What’s wrong with high fructose corn syrup? Tell me what you need to know, please.

Take good care of yourself this week!

Blessings to you,


8 Responses to STRESS versus SELF CARE

  1. Sue March 6, 2024 at 11:10 pm #

    Hi Theresa! Thank you so much for your blog posts. I can feel your warmth through your words. For me, weighing is pretty simple. I have to put my food in my bowl or on my plate anyway, so I just put that bowl or plate on the scale first, then add the food and weigh as I go. Simple!

    • H. Theresa Wright March 8, 2024 at 1:14 am #

      Simple! And you can add the salad dressing or other foods and weigh as you go!

  2. Christine Filippini March 14, 2024 at 3:08 pm #

    What a wonderful reminder! I appreciate your blogs, and thy are usually very timely.

    • H. Theresa Wright March 14, 2024 at 6:18 pm #

      Thank you so much!

  3. Bonnie Sclar March 14, 2024 at 3:09 pm #

    ty <3 trying to explain this to my support team for my daughter with special needs who is needing more attention than one person can handle!

    • H. Theresa Wright March 14, 2024 at 6:17 pm #

      This is so hard! Call me if you think I could help. We all need the support of others we trust sometimes.

  4. Kate P April 8, 2024 at 4:56 pm #

    I love my food and I want to make sure I have 100% of what my plan calls for so weighing and measuring allows me to know for sure I’m being accurate with no guilt or shame just accurate. Thank God I don’t have to guess am I over or under I’m just right and I’m teaching myself what the right amounts look and feel like.

    • H. Theresa Wright April 8, 2024 at 9:05 pm #

      Yes, Yes, and Yes! These are the best reasons for weighing and measuring. Thanks, Kate for believing in abundance!

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