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Sneaky Self Care

The last few weeks we have been talking about label reading. And I hope this has helped you choose food more effectively. One of the things we noted was that this is part of good self care – giving the body the nutrient rich foods it needs and excluding the foods we struggle with.

Too often we put time and things we need, aside to take care of other people, other responsibilities other situations that are not really ours to fix, and we let go of what we want and need to help or please whatever it is – let’s call it whatists – whether it is a person, situation, food, or whatever.

And we put whatists before the things we need and ought to do, so we can get free of the feelings….”I ought to..” “I don’t deserve..” “This needs to…” “They will be upset if I…”

Then what happens? Do they say, “Thank you so much!” “That is so kind of you” “Let me return the favor by …………….”

I doubt it.

There are times when we need time for ourselves. Time to take care of stuff we need, time to be with someone we love, time for a meeting, or prayer and meditation or other recovery activities. Or just time to be. Or time to cry.

We need to take that time.

We need to feel that blessing.

We need to trash the negative self talk and body talk.

We need to look at where our lives are going, and ask ourselves if we are happy with that, and if not, what changes we need to make.

Last week, I printed this picture:

This is haunting me. How many of us spend huge amounts of our lives struggling with food, eating, and body weight, and planning what we will do when we lose the weight or stop the struggle?

How much of our lives have we spent worrying about what other people will think of us, rather than about what we want and need?

When you come to the end of your life, what will you regret doing – or not doing?

What are the changes you need to make right now?

Blessings to you,


6 Responses to Sneaky Self Care

  1. Leila July 12, 2023 at 10:43 am #

    Thank you for this post!

    • H. Theresa Wright July 14, 2023 at 2:04 pm #

      You are welcome. Hope things are going well for you.

  2. Janet Pierce July 12, 2023 at 11:05 am #

    At some point in my life I realized that people seemed to be divided into two groups…givers and takers and they often married. Life is really not that simple and I long ago gave up being married to a ‘taker’. I’m still a ‘giver’ but I’ve learned to give to myself and not be a slave to being there for everyone else and in constant worry about what others’ opinions of me might be. I also was blessed with a healthier, balanced eating plan that allowed a significant weight loss many years ago. Most people who know me never knew me at that weight.
    Your point is well made. What’s going on inside drives how we live life including caring for ourselves. I can’t fill someone else’s glass when mine is empty.

    • H. Theresa Wright July 14, 2023 at 2:02 pm #

      I so agree. Thank you for your comments. May your glass always be full.

  3. Donna L July 21, 2023 at 4:21 pm #

    Thank you for this blog. It is something to think about. I need to take time for myself like I just did in reading this. Thank you for all that you post and for giving of yourself for others.

    • H. Theresa Wright July 25, 2023 at 12:16 am #

      You are welcome. I am glad it is of help to you. Taking time for ourselves is something we all need to learn to do more often. I am so glad you are enjoying my posts.

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