A client sent me a lovely article but we cannot figure out where it came from. I want to share some of the ideas with you, because I think they are so important. If you have a suggestion where they might have come from, please let me know. The author’s words are italicized
But here we go:
Food addiction is not about the food, which is why diets will never work. It is like going to the MD with an ear infection; he gives you a pain reliever and a decongestant and you will feel better right away. But the problem has not been solved. Until you get the antibiotic, the problem will return over and over again.
So, it is with our problems with food, eating, and body weight. The diet or calorie restricted program causes weight loss or gain, but it does not deal with the real problem. So, you diet, lose weight, and then regain it over and over. The real problem is not solved.
If we stay focused on the symptom, we cannot hear the message we are trying to tell ourselves. But what is the message? What are we not hearing?
Food and fat are not killing us, the obsession to control them is. And so, we stay focused on the symptom and miss the opportunity to fix the problem.
I live in a body that has been the subject of shame and ridicule my whole life, and estranged from my passion, my truth and my voice. Is this not sad? What have you set aside “until” you solve the food issue? How have your problems with food limited your life choices? What have you given up because of this problem? Have you and other people been allowed to say rude, mean and derogatory things to you and your body? About your body? This will not help.
Recovery means no more obsession about food and weight. It means we change our focus from trying to fix the symptom to looking at the real problem beneath it and finding the way to solve the problem that causes the symptom.
It means you know (learn) who you are and what you want and are able to communicate those desires. If food were no longer an issue, how would you choose to change your life? What would you have done instead? What would you be reaching for today?
Recovery means knowing that you have the right to be here and take up as much space as you do. (or choose to!) You are allowed to do and become whatever you wish. You no longer need to focus your days on the food obsession.
You no longer need to get so small as to disappear or so big to be sure to be seen. You are allowed to finally become your true self
Start speaking with your voice instead of with your body. Others will not hear what you say when you eat your feelings. Being yourself means beginning to be honest about who you really are and are becoming.
You are not just a mouth, just a belly, or a bottomless hole to be filled. You are so much more. You have feelings, desires, and needs. And you have skills and gifts, and love and joy and hope. And vision, and honesty, and care for others. You are valuable and precious to me and to many others.
Blessings to you,