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Inner Peace

Remember, only you can create outer peace with inner peace. Love is real.

“We attain inner peace when we relinquish fear and accept love.”
—Marianne Williamson

When we are in the food, there is no peace. There are cravings, obsessions, and self-hating thoughts. There is the inner debate about what the next diet should be and what the next problem will be. We feel like people are staring at us, and noticing our body shape, whenever we are out in public. We feel embarrassed and ashamed.

The food takes on a life of its own, and often it prevents us from accomplishing what we really want to do, and becoming the people we wanted to become. It may force us to postpone what we really want to do in our lives.

It does not have to be that way.

When we eat appropriately, the withdrawal happens in the first month, yes, but then we can begin to feel more like ourselves. What is going on here? Why does this happen?

A client reminded me this week, of something I apparently said years ago. (I don’t remember saying it, but….) that if I mix ammonia with bleach, I am going to get toxic fumes. It does not matter how many times I try, and how many ways I mix them, the result will be the same.

It is the same with our bodies. Some of us are simply sensitive to certain foods and we will have no peace of mind and heart when we eat them. I want you to have peace of mind and heart.

Life is hard sometimes. We lost a beautiful, powerful singer, Aretha Franklin, and a generous strong-willed man of honesty and integrity, John McCain.

And I listen to clients tell me how many paths they have tried to get free of the food and I am saddened by the time, energy, money, and potential that is not available to my clients. Some of you have been in Twelve Step programs for twenty to thirty years, but you have not had long term and consistent abstinence.

Why is that? What is wrong? I know that you can tell me accurately what foods get you in trouble. I know that you can tell me accurately about the feelings with which you struggle. You are well educated. You are strong willed in all the other areas of your life. But your life is really being limited, held back, by your problems with food, eating, and body weight.

 Remember, only you can create outer peace with inner peace. Love is real.

What would make it possible for you to get consistently abstinent? What do you need? Information always helps. Support is nice. Solving the problems and issues that bedevil you, now I can see that that would be a bit of work, and what else.

I know that the way to change my problems with me, or my life, or other people, has only one solution. I need to change.

First though, I have to cry. Then I have to talk to those I trust, then I have to talk to my Higher Power about it. Then I may need to go looking for more information. Then I may need to carefully choose and hire a helper. Then I may need to cry some more. It is really hard work to change me.

We lost two wonderful people this week. The world is better for their presence. I want you to be able to make the world better by your presence in it.

What do you need? How much longer will we wait till you sing your song?

 “We attain inner peace when we relinquish fear and accept love.”
—Marianne Williamson

Call or comment if I can help you or if you want to reply. I love to hear from you.

Blessings to you.


3 Responses to Inner Peace

  1. Matt August 28, 2018 at 9:32 pm #

    What I needed to begin my journey of seeking inner peace was the acceptance that I was not a “normal eater”. I had to accept that despite my best efforts, I could not control my eating. My binge foods “called my name” and I could not resist them…no matter how much will power I tried to exert. This acceptance did not happen overnight, and it was a long and painful process for me to endure. However, when I was finally beaten into submission by my disease of food addiction, I became willing to listen to the suggestions of others who were just like me. When I was finally able to set my ego aside and truly work on my physical, emotional, and spiritual well being, miracles began to happen. That was 30 years ago and today I understand that I had to experience that pain before I was willing to let go of my old life, and accept the gift of recovery.

    • H. Theresa Wright August 29, 2018 at 9:14 pm #

      Beautiful. Thank you.

  2. Cari Heumann August 30, 2018 at 3:14 am #

    Theresa, thank you so much for sharing these blogs. I have realized that the next step in becoming the woman I want to become is taking more ACTION. I have been abstinent for awhile now. That’s not to say that I do not struggle with various things in life from time to time. But i am at a point in my recovery where I truly must take more action in my life to have better boundaries, self-care, and learning more of what nourishes my soul. In other words, I need to have more fun. I need to talk less and DO more. I need to just bite the bullet, step up to the microphone, and sing that song!

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