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I’m Lonely, Are You Lonely Too?

I must admit that I expected the coronavirus lockdown to last about two weeks, and a part of me looked forward to staying home, not teaching classes, etc.

This has become much bigger than that. So many of us have lost those we love to this microscopic invader. And now it is eight weeks and some of us would like our lives to go back to normal.

Then the incredible unbelievable death of George Floyd and the aftermath of public protests; I am personally horrified by what has happened and professionally unsure how to react. But a person precious to me, Thembi, wrote that the best way we can serve is to offer our services and impact more people. However, as we did during COVID, we have to be careful to be honest; we can’t be tone-deaf either.

I am deeply sorrowful about this situation, and I also hear your pain about your weight and your lives. But a binge on chocolate marshmallow ice cream or a big bag of chips won’t kill a coronavirus. It won’t bring George back or save our society, either.

So, let’s get serious. Cut down your news viewing if it upsets you. Look at how this brings back a childhood memory, then let it go. Don’t allow yourself to ruminate on bad thoughts or feelings. Don’t let yourself focus on the things you don’t want in your life. Find a positive to focus on.

So, tell me about the food. How have you been working on following your food plans this week? What has not helped? Toss it. What has helped a bit? Keep it and work on it.

Get focused on eating the foods right for you and let yourself grow till you are the person you want to become. Let me help because this is how I can serve you best so you can become the person you were meant to be.

For me the critical issue is support. I have been told that we become like the five people we hang out with the most. Are you doing that? Are you happy to be with the people you are with most often? Do you like being with them?

Now… there are some people we are just stuck with: it’s the way our lives are set up. But there is one saying I love about this: “Stop trying to buy milk at the hardware store!” It means there are some things we need that our usual contacts do not have to give.

If you thirst for more support, more people who agree with you, more knitters even, you need to surround yourself with others who also want more of what you want. You need to seek out new people or new friendships or communities so that you can be nourished and uplifted, supported and encouraged.

Our food addictions and COVID and the political situations, can lead us to a lonely path. It’s easy to get isolated. It feels familiar because that is what food addiction always does. It’s easy to get discouraged and despondent when you struggle with the food and don’t see the results you want.

It is essential to seek out others who are on the path; to find your people; to surround yourself with those who believe what you believe, who want what you want. That’s why the Thursday Nights with Theresa began.

That’s why I am starting a program on codependency this week. Codependency is the base of all the addictions. The man who is doing it with me has taught codependency for more than thirty years. And he has rescued me from my idiocies more than once. (For the flier, please click below.) And then there are two more programs coming, about making a new relationship with food.

What are you doing to support yourself? To take care of yourself? These are tough times – physically, emotionally, politically, spiritually! Pour a cup of tea and sit down to read. Try some meditation. Take a walk. Call a friend – a real friend! Pick up your knitting needles with me.

Next week, we will have recipes and label reading, so bring a pen and paper! I believe this is how I can serve you best so you can have the strength and energy to contribute to the causes you care about, which is more important now more than ever…


Blessings to you,


Codependency and Food3 Flier

5 Responses to I’m Lonely, Are You Lonely Too?

  1. Cari Heumann June 9, 2020 at 12:21 pm #

    Theresa, thank you for your insight and understanding, and being right by our sides (from afar) as we all navigate through these lonely and difficult times. Especially now, we are so vulnerable to our addictive tendencies even if we have years in recovery. Thank you for providing the support so many of us need right now. You are such a blessing.

    • H. Theresa Wright June 10, 2020 at 12:29 am #

      Thank you. These are lonely and difficult times and we need support from those we can trust.

  2. Ann Tarbell June 9, 2020 at 3:05 pm #

    I am lonely.

    • H. Theresa Wright June 10, 2020 at 12:31 am #

      I am sending you a big hug! Join us on Thursday for the night out with Theresa? May we help you get some people to support you?

    • H. Theresa Wright August 2, 2020 at 11:45 pm #

      What will help? What do you need? Could you try our wacky Wednesdays, or could a phone call help?

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