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I Have Failed

Well, friends, I have to admit that I have failed. I was supposed to write today about the way vitamins and minerals work in the heart. I know this material from dietitian school. But when I sat down to write it, I realized the topic was much more enormous than I thought.  The blog would be six pages long, and the citations were going to be overwhelming. And I do not think you wanted all that stuff in your blog, anyway. I want you to have this information though so you will notice my sneaking it in at every available opportunity.

And more is happening we need to talk about. Today, as I write this, is Memorial Day. It is the very beginning of the summer season. And as we look back and forward, we see ourselves climbing out of a number of uncomfortable holes – fear, isolation, dread, lack of money, unsureness about our jobs and income, changes in relationships, work – work at home, work from work, coordinating them. And the children! How many of us really wanted to homeschool our children! And if they don’t soon open the hair salons, we may have 1000 women shaving their heads on Governor Wolf’s lawn! 6 feet apart and wearing masks, of course.

Then there is the food.  The grocery did not have the right yogurt, the lady who stood over the chicken was not wearing a mask, can I substitute this for that? And oh what a relief my drug food would be right now, and the family members who want foods you don’t eat, and popcorn – I can’t eat just 2 cups of popcorn! That will never be enough! And we can’t go out to dinner and we can’t have a picnic with our friends either!

OK so how can I get a handle on this?

#1.  Are there medical problems to be taken care of? If so, do that first. The overwhelmed and overworked personnel may try to avoid you. If you think this is serious, don’t let them.  “I know you are overworked but this is my dad and we really need help” will get you attention lots of the time. Don’t sit by. Don’t wait. Get it taken care of.

#2 Of all the things on your do list, choose two: one that will give you the most heartache if you skip it, and one that will give you the most joy if you do it. Do these first.

#3 Every morning, make a list of the three things you want to get done today. These are your priorities. Stay focused on them. Get them done. Now you are free.

#3 I am assuming you working from home. This can be wonderfully easy or totally difficult. You may feel like you are getting nothing done, be confused about how to communicate with the rest of the team, and feel isolated. Here are a few choices:

Set up a space that is only work. When you are there, you’re working. When you are not, it is your time.

Create a startup ritual. Turn off Amazon, put your briefcase where it belongs, get your coffee.

Do a morning check in with your boss or email, as is usual for you. Now start the day’s work.

Set an alarm for 50 minutes. When it rings, get up and stretch. Spend ten minutes doing what you have been worrying needs to be done.

Have a healthy lunch. You need nutrients to power your brain.

Take a walk at lunchtime get enough movement in that you feel awake. Being at home for this long may make you feel more tired than usual.

Make a ritual of shutting down your workspace at quitting time. You don’t work 24/7 at work, don’t start that now.

Now let’s go “home”. The next piece is to raise your self-care.

          Did you pray or do your morning ritual today? Go fit it in.

Take a walk. Get out in the sunshine, moonshine or rain every day. Breathe the fresh air. Move the body.

Find a silly cartoon to share with a friend (or coworker if that’s ok)

Turn on music you love. While you fill the dishwasher or do other chores.

DRINK YOUR WATER!  You need 8 to 18 cups a day, and dehydration will turn off your brain and body.

Make a list of five things you are grateful for.

And while you have the book out, do your daily journaling!

Limit your info on the coronavirus – be strict with yourself about this. Five minutes twice a day will be enough to keep you up to date.

Call the people you trust and share honestly with them. Listen, share, cry, and feel whole again.

          Indulge in some 12 Step Zoom meetings. Get the support you need.

This coronavirus will likely be with us for months. It will probably change a lot of the ways we do things in America, from voting, to shopping, to fly fishing, to food and eating. Let’s begin to make plans to handle these difficult situations in a way that is in our best interests. We adapt, we adjust, we compromise, we innovate. We do not give up our goals and values. And we ask the Higher Powers of the Universe, and our own Wise Minds, to help us.

Blessings to you,


8 Responses to I Have Failed

  1. Annie Dunn May 27, 2020 at 7:36 pm #

    You did not fail!
    Thanks for writing this for us! I do several ZOOM mtgs a week. There is an OA ZOOM mtg on Thursdays @10. It’s a Step and Tradition Meeting.
    Mtg Number: 837 9047922
    Password: 016386

    • H. Theresa Wright June 1, 2020 at 2:06 pm #

      Id love to!

  2. Marykim May 27, 2020 at 8:34 pm #

    So you’re saying you’re human too!

    • H. Theresa Wright May 31, 2020 at 10:10 pm #

      Guess I am!

  3. Neva May 27, 2020 at 9:19 pm #

    Theresa, this is a fabulous post! So many wonderful & useful things to keep in mind. Thank you.

    • H. Theresa Wright May 31, 2020 at 10:09 pm #

      Glad to be of help.

  4. Ann Tarbell May 28, 2020 at 3:58 pm #

    Thanks for this post. I smiled through all of it.

    Ann Tarbell

    • H. Theresa Wright May 31, 2020 at 10:08 pm #

      So glad you enjoyed it!

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