As I send this to you on December 11, that makes it only two weeks till Christmas!
How have the holidays been for you in years past, and what would you like to create this year? If you could make changes in your life in the next two weeks, what would they be? I often say that if you aim at nothing, you will surely hit it.
But the next piece of that is, if you aim at nothing, you will likely stay in the same place. Is that ok with you?
For some of us, holidays seem like the happiest time of the year, there are church bells and children, family we enjoy, and lots of fun activities. For others of us, it is a different story. There are sadnesses, grief and losses.
If you struggle with your eating, your addiction, or your weight, you may struggle with them more at this time. Or you may wish for a way to make all the holiday hoopla go away.
For still others of us there are family members who dislike our food plans and want to help us have tastes of the good stuff – “just a little won’t hurt”; or perhaps have negative comments or negative relationships with us.
Being clear —-this is supposed to be fun! You are supposed to set this up in a way that will let you love it and enjoy it!
And there are those of us who are having a ball! We love the candles of Hannukah, we love the gifts, we love the Christmas tree and the lights and the chaos! And the chance to be with family and friends. Enjoy. That is the point!
What are these holidays for? Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, New Years. This is an ancient holiday period. The ancients were afraid, as the world got darker, that the sun would go out and there would be no light. So, they sang and danced and lit fires to try to bring the sun back. And it worked till next year.
Winter is often cold, it gets dark earlier, and trees have lost their leaves and appear dead. This is a depressing time of year, and that can mean only one thing: It is time to party!
Religions who were persecuted, chose these days as their holiday time, so they would not be noticed in the rest of the celebrations; the middle of winter has long been a time of celebration around the world; early Europeans celebrated light and birth in the darkest days of winter. So, some parts of the winter holidays have religious meanings to some of us. If you have this in your beliefs, honor it, honor the sacredness.
Set it up so you can have fun! Say “No, thank you” when it won’t make you happy! Protect your safety. Protect your abstinence. Do what you have to do to make the holiday happy for yourself and your loved ones.
But protect yourself. Get out in the sunlight. Light some candles (not food scented, PLEASE!). Freeze an orange. Holding it, tossing it, scratching it, smelling the citrus is very calming. No, you may not hit him in the head with it, dear.
Never go to a holiday party hungry!! When you get there, survey all the food and decide what will be good for you to eat. Eat only that. Feel free to move your seat and talk to someone else. Move to another room to get away from food smells. Use the rest room to make a support call to a friend. Plan an escape route. Take your own car if you need to, or arrange a signal with your traveling partners.
Do whatever you need to do to celebrate your way and safely. Third Saturday Support Group is this Saturday the 15th. (11:30 till 2) Join us. We will talk about Dispelling the Darkness. Please come.
One holiday down for many of you. I am here to support you in any way I can with whatever holiday is hard for you. Call, email, or text. Share this with anyone you think it will help.
And please, please comment below. Tell me what works and what you need.
Blessings to you,