Do you ever have things happen in your life which you did not want, do not like, and never wished for? Hard stuff.
And do you eat over it? Well, maybe I should say, how do you keep yourself from eating over it? Well, what else should I do? Here is a long list of suggestions for handling miserable unpleasant situations. You don’t have to do all of them in the next five minutes, but when you are feeling stressed and upset, take a look at the list and try a few. They go from immediate to longer term.
Remember, your food plan is supposed to be like a comfortable sweatshirt, not a straitjacket. Accurate is better than perfect, my favorite lawyer used to say. So, give yourself the awareness that perfection is not going to work here. And be aware that the food plan is only the first piece of recovery
- Take enough time for you. Even if you just walk away from it all for five minutes of deep breathing, that will help.
- Probably you are powerless over the situation and its consequences. You are NOT powerless over your response to them. You get to choose what you will do. Take a hot bath or go to the convenience store? Your choice.
- If you eat, you ruin your chances of thinking clearly. When you are dealing with hard stuff, you need every brain cell up, running, and ready. You need to be able to think clearly enough to decide how you are going to handle the situation in a way that works well for you.
- Get more information. Ask Dr Google how others have fixed the problem.
- Call anyone you know who specializes in this stuff. Or call everyone you can think of who will know who specializes in this stuff. Get referrals.
- Now call the people you trust and talk about your thoughts and feelings and options. This is not a time to go it alone; you need effective help.
- Remember it is not your choice, not your fault…….. even if your behavior contributed, you never wanted a difficult or painful result.
- Pray even if you do not believe in it. Call on Mother Nature and the good forces of the Universe to help you. A part of your mind listens. Depak Chopra calls it “the Observer”. This is the real you – the person you truly are. This good healthy, caring part of you needs to take charge and make the decisions for how to handle the situation.
- This is also the part of you that knows what foods and food behaviors are good for you, and which are the result of past times. Let that part of you decide what to eat.
- My favorite spiritual teacher, Wayne Dyer, said that we should pay close attention to what we say to ourselves in the last five minutes before we fall asleep at night. Our subconscious mind will marinate on those ideas for the rest of the night. So, pay attention to what goes into your subconscious mind at night. Make it be what you want to see growing in your life.
- And pay attention to what thoughts you allow to take over your mind. Let them be good and healthy and lead you to the life you really want. A part of your mind listens. This is the part that can lead you to who you want to become. Look for that part of you. Let that part of you decide what to do.
- Take the actions that “The Observer” wants you to take. Do not allow the negative thoughts to control your actions. (even if I DO want to strangle him, I am not allowed!). Find the choices that lead you to health and happiness.
- Your support people can help you make the right decisions. Be aware that with every decision you make, there are results, and sometimes consequences. You have control over your decisions; but you also receive the consequences. Let the decision lead you to the life you want.
- And when the situation is handled, reward yourself. A good book, a time for you, a time with friends, whatever gives you pleasure.
Please comment. Tell us what works for you.
Blessings to you,