Thank you to everyone who wrote about last week’s blog. It really made me feel better about the situation.
This week, I want to talk about the upsetting situations in our nation. New York, Philadelphia, Minneapolis. One of the sad pieces, for me, is that when a peaceful demonstration or protest gets ugly with violence and looting and shooting, the message gets lost. We hear all about these awful things that have happened, but we lose focus on the message of the peaceful protest.
And if you are an anorexic, bulimic, compulsive eater or food addict, what happens with your food?Some of you just CAN’T eat! The food tastes like cardboard, it chokes me, it feels like an exhausting chore to even chew it, and what could I eat and hold down?
The feelings have filled your stomach; no room for food.
And then some of us get upset, ruminate, aggravate, yell, argue, and watch the TV all evening. Then you need to EAT (usually not on your food plan food) to calm you down.
The feelings have upset your stomach. You need food to push the feelings away.
For both of you I have to say, “Hurting your body with extra food or no food will not help the people in Minneapolis. Hurting your body will keep you from being part of the solution.”
So, what will help? Turn off the TV. Limit your screen time to 15 minutes a day.
Practice self-care. Talk to your supportive posse, have some exercise, how about some prayer and meditation? How about a meeting?
You may need to talk to someone you trust about the food and the feelings. Write them down, talk them out, handle them without hurting yourself.
If you are in the first group, this is what I suggest: Eat a small amount of appropriate food with a bit of protein every 3 to 5 hours. A cup of yogurt and a banana, peanut butter on an apple. Cheese with a dozen cherries. Eat only the food you tolerate well. Go back to your usual food plan at any meal you can.
If you are in the second group, eat only your food plan and nothing more. Both groups need to do something else with the feelings: journal, go for a walk, talk to a support person, say a prayer. Or just sit down and cry.
Treat the body with kindness and respect. And could you actually DO anything to help the situation? If so, go do it. If not, pick up your knitting and relax. This too shall pass. We’ll get through it together.
Blessings to you,