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Finding and following a food plan can be one of the scariest things we ever do. First, it brings up a lot of fear, because change is always scary. Second, the foods we ought not to eat are often the ones that provide the most satisfaction and enjoyment for us. Third, most of us have been on a variety of diets before, none of them have worked long term, none were fun to follow, and none of them led us to the place we wanted to be in life. Fourth, we do not want to put in the time and effort of planning meals, cooking them, having other people not like them, feeling different from the rest of the world, and feeling ashamed. Fifth and most importantly, we may not want to contemplate living the rest of our lives without certain foods and eating in a way that makes us feel different and unsatisfied. Sixth, the requirements are often unfamiliar, and we may resent some of the intrusions into your personal life.

So let’s begin to work through some of these issues.

First, finding a food plan that works. What do you need for a food plan? I can tell you what I think, and you choose what you want. No one food plan will work for everyone; for example, a 6-foot-tall, 360-pound man will need many more calories, even at his ideal body weight, than a 5-foot one-inch woman will at 150 pounds. So lots of the time we need to make adjustments for height, weight, medical issues, activity level, weight loss goals and other important factors.

It’s ok to try different food plans and approaches till you find one that works well for you. Here are my requirements for a good food plan: choose what works for you:

1)It must meet your body’s needs for nutrients: protein, fat, carbohydrates, vitamins, minerals, fluids; and manage any medical problems;

2) It takes out all your personal binge and trigger foods: the ones you can’t stop eating once you start. And it needs to take out all their cousins, the foods that look, act, sound in your body just like your trigger foods.

3) It needs to fit your lifestyle and your daily schedule;

4) There needs to be ENOUGH food; you should be hungry five to ten minutes before mealtime, and satisfied when you are done;

5) It should be flexible enough to let you live your life; free you from cravings, obsessions, and worry about food;

6) It needs to be pe powerful enough to help you create the life you have always wanted;

7) It is likely to be the LAST one your addiction wants you to try!

One of the things many of my clients hate most about food plans is the realization that they cannot do this without allowing other people to help them.  We may have had lots of experiences with people who behaved in untrustworthy ways, we may have been embarrassed, judged, or tormented as children, and used food to manage the feelings; now we are asking you to trust other people with the intimate details of your eating. How scary! But…. This shameful process has to be brought into the light of day so it can be healed.

I know you know what you should eat, I know you are sure that a half gallon of ice cream, or a whole bag of potato chips are not good choices for you. But what will stop you from eating them?

Committing your food will help a lot.

Why? It becomes a matter of integrity. If I tell you what I am going to eat today, I will do that and feel good about myself. If I want to eat something else and I call you, we can look at why. Is the apple rotten? Did another family member eat what I planned? Or did I have a marginal food for lunch, and has it set me off? Or did I have a long hard day at work, come home hungry and tired, and my food was gone so now what do I do? Or is it that there are feelings coming up that I need to deal with?

Or is my addiction stamping my feet and refusing to be controlled because I want to do what I want to do and I don’t want anyone to have the chance to stop me?!!!!

I promise, committing your food for a time, can make an enormous difference in your recovery. It will bring you safety, support, and sanity.

And if there are difficult situations to be dealt with, another person who knows you well can be an enormous help.

And learning to have integrity with food, shining a light of love into those dark and painful spots, sharing them with someone trustworthy, can lead you to a unique kind of peace that can lead you to freedom from the food obsession.

If you have tried committing your food, please tell me below how it worked for you; if you have never tried it, or resisted or avoided it, please tell me why below and how that worked for you.

I am eager to hear what you are thinking and feeling about this topic. So please comment.

Blessings to you,



  1. Carolyn June 13, 2018 at 1:59 am #

    I love the food plan you wrote for me oh so many years ago ….

    • H. Theresa Wright June 21, 2018 at 1:28 am #

      I am so glad it still works. Miss you.

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