Today is the fourth of December, and in 29 days this holiday season will be over and we will be beginning a new year. For some of us, this is a joyful time. The lady with the bell and red donation box makes us smile and feel good; watching the children line up for a picture with Santa gives us laughter and joy. Traveling our favorite stores and finding bargains to give to friends and family members is a challenge and a delight. The lights, Christmas trees, Hanukkah candles, all these lift our spirits. We look forward to the holidays and enjoy every one.
For some of us though, the holidays are not so joyful. If we have traumatic memories from childhood, they may come up to torture us. If a loved one died during this time, the memories and the grief may return. If childhood holidays were unhappy and uncomfortable, we may not know how to enjoy them. And the chaos, the crowded roadways and the chaotic stores may just feel too much.
And if you have spent most of the last year struggling with food, eating, and body weight, feelings of inadequacy or failure may torture you. Last year’s New Year’s Resolution was to handle this problem, and if you have not succeeded, you well may feel “less than”.
This happens to a lot of us. It is not your fault! And you are not hopeless, stupid, inadequate, or willpower free!
We are having a whole program on this topic on December 15. But may I give you five suggestions?
- Get enough light. Go outside every day the sun shines, just for fifteen minutes or so; or watch a winter sunrise. And take your Vitamin D.
- What activity really pleases you? Novels? Some kind of craft? Old silly movies? Indulge yourself.
- Light candles that are not food flavored and let them scent your home and light the fireplace if you have one.
- Establish, increase, change, or revamp your spirituality program; do what is needed to re-establish or improve your connection with the Universe.
- Order your gifts online. If you choose to go shopping, make a complete list before you go, and go at off hours when the stores are less busy. Or….do you have a friend who loves to shop? The one who spent 12 hours at the malls on Black Friday and came home loving the adventure? Could you ask her to go for you and buy your gifts, perhaps with a peaceful lunch on another day?
Do what you need to have a comfortable holiday season. Whatever you choose, remember self-care and feel free to do what is best for you. Indulging your food disorder will only make things worse in the long run.
Reach out for support – I’ll be here all month – if you need it.
Please comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts and suggestions. Be welcome to share this post with anyone who might be helped by it.
Blessings to you,