Thanks for coming back to reading this blog. Today I want you to look at who you are and who you want to become. If you are reading this, I bet you have some problems with food, eating, and body weight. Maybe they are new, maybe they have been troubling you for a long time.
Remember last week, I told you that I think one of the big problems is, that we are looking at the symptom, but not the problem? So, what is the real problem?
What is going on with you that leads you to eat in ways that do not work for you?
I bet you are intelligent, well educated, and really competent in some areas of your life. But the food stuff just keeps coming back to torture you, and nothing seems to work.
Diets do not work- I do not think they work for anyone. I think a diet is a period of starvation that happens right before you gain twenty pounds. For all the diets that are studied by researchers, losses of 6 to 10 % of starting body weight are reported. And one recent study showed only a 40% success rate for people in binge eating disorder treatment. (references on request).
So, what do we do? The first thing I tell my clients is, “Stop beating yourself up about this! It is not your fault, it is not that you do not have the willpower, it is not that you are lazy or stupid!” When you say these rude things to yourself, you make it worse, because you keep yourself from figuring out what is really going on! You did not fail at dieting, diets failed you!
Here is Theresa’s Rule #1: If you would not dare say this to your spouse, your child, your boss or your best friend, then you MAY NOT say it to yourself!
And here is Theresa’s Rule #2: It comes from my father; it was one of his favorite sayings, “The purpose of life is not to get to the end of it; the purpose of life is to enjoy the trip.”
Are you having fun yet? What is there in your life that you really enjoy? If food was not an issue, what would you want your life to become? Do you see that speaking rudely to yourself is not helping? When those thoughts come up, reject them and say something nice to yourself. Go do something you love.
Do you see that a food problem is keeping you from getting some of the things you really want, need, and deserve in your life? First, write down what you really want.
Okay, let’s begin to figure out what is wrong here. Get yourself a tablet, notebook, or journal, and make a list of what foods cause trouble for you. What food situations cause trouble for you? Be honest; it’s only between you and me. Now look for commonalities among the foods that cause you trouble.
Are they whole foods? Real foods? Apples? Oranges? Pears?
Are they mostly sugar? Sugar and salt or sugar and fat? Or sugar, flour and fat?
Is it crunchy salty foods like potato chips? Tortilla chips?
Do you drink eighteen cups of regular coffee a day? Is it the coffee or the creamer and sweeteners you are putting into it?
How about diet food substitutes? Diet soda? Mints? Gum?
Most of the clients who come to me are sensitive to refined, processed, and man-made foods. Again, not your fault. Food manufacturers have whole departments of people whose job it is to find the cheapest way to create foods that people cannot resist and want more of and cannot stop eating. This helps expand their profits, and unfortunately, also your waistline.
The point is that many of us are physically sensitive to certain foods, and peace and freedom begin when we take the offending foods out of our diets, and focus on eating whole, real, unrefined foods instead.
Observe yourself this week. Read the labels on the foods you are eating. Is there a sugar in the first few ingredients? Several sugars? Enriched wheat flour? Lots of fats? Lots of words you can’t pronounce and don’t know what they really are? NutraSweet? Aspartame? Xylitol? Erythritol?
What is in the food that sets you off?
There are about 150 names for sugar. If you want a list, contact my office and we’ll email you one.
Don’t go away. There is hope and healing and joy coming!
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Blessings to you,