Yes, I know we had Decision Making #3 last week, some of us are technologically challenged!! Hope you enjoy them both!!
Last time we talked about the kinds of decisions we can make; good decisions, bad decisions, no decision. I said that the worst decision is not to decide; why is that? Because it leaves you in a kind of limbo……you still struggle with the issue, and it never really goes away, but you never really handle it, either.
Have you heard of people who struggle with food, eating, or body weight for years but never seem to get a handle on the problem? The last time I wrote:
My friend’s point here is, very few decisions are final and unchangeable. You make a choice, try it out, and look at the results. How close did I get to my goals? How does this feel? What part worked for me and what part didn’t?? What do I need to do now?”
Sometimes, making a decision is a really painful process. We may not like any of the choices available. Some choices require that we set aside our rights to do other pleasant things. Do I want a hot bath at home, for example, or a dinner with a friend? Do I want to commit to this person as a partner or do I want to date others? Do I want to follow this person’s ideas and suggestions, or shall I go in another direction?
Decisions are powerful.
Once I EAT the food, I cannot control the effects of that food on my body. It becomes a permanent decision.
But I believe that 90% of our problems are what comes next. Remember, I said that this eating issue is the symptom, the cause or the result of another problem. So, when you try to solve one problem – the food – the other problems that are under the food come right up.
That is why, through willpower and discipline, we can stay on diets for weeks or months, and then somewhere, the control snaps, and off we go.!!
It doesn’t have to be that way.
We need to learn to manage the problem under the problem. We need to see that weight loss is not just about losing weight. It is about changing the things that made us develop the problem, in the first place.
Whatever the problem you have with food, eating and body weight, I need to suggest that it might be related to another issue that needs to be dealt with. And the only thing I am sure of is that we do not get well by discipline and willpower, but by solving the real problem.
I am certain that no one can do it alone. “We get ill in isolation and we get well in community,” the saying goes, and I am sure that is true. A bowl of ice cream, a chocolate chip cookie – these do not have to be the beginning of a binge that lasts three days or three months. You need to learn the skills and strategies to get back on track without a major problem. You may be blessed by learning a lesson about what happened and learning how to help yourself.
This is what I believe: that we each need to find a way of living and working and eating and praying that works for us. It has to be individualized just for you; and it may change as your needs change; but the goal is to find what works for you long term. Please know that I am here and willing to help, through these blogs, courses, and writings that I am beginning. So please, stay tuned, comment below and let me help you.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Blessings to you,