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Change Your Mind – Change Your Life

Have you ever felt like you just can’t take any more? The food is out of control, the boss wants more than you can give, your mother in law is enraged with you, and the dog just chewed up your favorite shoes?

Meanwhile, your mind is whirling a thousand miles a minute with the negative thoughts we know you can’t handle. “You are fat, stupid, ugly. You cannot even keep the DOG under control. You are gonna get fired, then you won’t have the money to pay your bills! You can’t even control your weight! Following a food plan is useless for idiots like you! You will never be able to do this!

Some of you may know how much I value the wisdom of Wayne Dyer. This excerpt is taken from his book The Power of Intention, p 183-186

“One of my secrets for feeling successful and attracting bountiful abundance into my life has been an internal axiom that I use virtually every day of my life. It goes like this: “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”’

Now let’s look at all this stuff in your mind. Where did this come from and what is it?

The first thing I want you to notice is that whoever is speaking is NOT YOU. If it were, it would use the pronoun “I”. So, who is speaking? Is this a memory from a bad experience? Is there a person who used to speak to you that way? Is there a live person that talks like this to you now? Maybe you should get that person some boundaries.

And is there any truth here? Well, we cannot deny that the dog needs to be trained to not chew your shoes, and maybe you need to get a dog trainer to help.

Now, what about the rest of this stuff. What’s going on with your food plan. Are you hungry all day long? Are you overfull at some times of the day? Could you be eating small amounts of the foods that trigger you? Are you looking at this like a diet? A temporary period of starvation? Is it imposed from ON HIGH or something you chose and wanted?

I want my clients to feel hungry about ten minutes before a meal and satisfied afterwards. I want you to have all the nutrients your body needs to repair, replace, and maintain itself. I want you to have energy all day long, and glowing hair, skin, and nails. If you don’t, maybe your food plan needs to be changed. And I do not want you to struggle with cravings, food urges and obsessions. Ever. Or is there a feeling that needs to be managed?

What’s the real truth? What do you need to help yourself get well and feel well? If you cannot answer that question, think about using my favorite solution when I don’t know the answer to a problem: I ask five people I trust to tell me what they see, then I go to a sixth person I REALLY trust to decide. Or I start a prayer campaign, saying the same prayer over and over every day and asking Higher Power to help me know what to do.

As Dr Dyer says in The Power of Intention, p 183-186,

“Thoughts that emphasize what you don’t (want to) believe you deserve set up a contradiction in energy. That contradiction puts a stop to a hooking up of identical energies, and you’ve created a field of disallowing. Remember, it’s always about being in harmony with your Source.”

So, what you let yourself think about is what can come true in your life. Make your thoughts positive please, and get help for the things you struggle with, both food and non-food.

Please feel free to share this with anyone it can help, but remember that this is not HIPPAA privacy protected; the internet is a public place. If you need personal help, be welcome to call. Next week we will talk more about food cravings, so stay tuned!

Till then, blessings to you,


2 Responses to Change Your Mind – Change Your Life

  1. Melanie Kaneff April 17, 2019 at 12:58 pm #

    In my prior life of “Adventures in Abstinence,” so much was completely out of my control and beyond my power to effect any positive change from any source either external or internal. Turns out the following things had to happen for abstinence to FINALLY become that wonderful, comfy sweater: My mom had to finally pass away after holding on and weakening for 8 years following her last major stroke (which released me from care and worry and allowed me to finally fully grieve her), I had to retire from my high-pressure, high-stress job that was physically and mentally destroying me, I had to spend a year packing up and moving from my childhood home to another state, and I had to learn to relax my perfectionism while babysitting my grandkids and realize the world wouldn’t end if they didn’t like what I made for their dinner! I also had to make sure I started filling my life with things I wanted to do – painting, reading, walking, volunteering at an animal shelter, etc. So now that I have been abstinent and have lost 70 pounds so far, I still have to be aware of stress, which is just a part of life and which could do me in if I let it. I have recently been incapacitated for weeks with neck and back pain and immobility, and had to depend on both my daughter and her husband to come over and clean the cat box, because I couldn’t even bend that much. In the past, pain and frustration would always send me back to the Imaginary comfort of excess and inappropriate food. I could start to hear myself – or the vicious critic in my brain – trying to tell me how stupid and hopeless I am, because I overdid things 3 days in a row back in March, thinking I am superwoman, and that’s how I threw my spine out of whack again. Fortunately, I did recognize the nasty voice of that critic because Theresa taught me years ago I didn’t need to believe her (Thanks Theresa!) and these days although sometimes I still might think I want more food, I actually never want the junk food I used to crave. That is really a miracle. And yes, the back is finally getting better! But I know life will always throw some punches And hopefully I will continue to roll with them.

    • H. Theresa Wright April 17, 2019 at 5:05 pm #

      You are a miracle. I am so proud of your hard work! And congratulations on taking care of yourself!

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