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Handling the Folk in Your Life

  As the sign above says, YOU get to choose who is allowed in your life. You get to evaluate, promote demote terminate, excoriate, restrict, avoid, allow, disallow, accept, or reject. Imagine a path of concentric circles. You are the center.   The Uber driver is outside the circles. Your brother’s wife’s sister-in-law who no one […]

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Voices In Our Brains

We all have a variety of voices in our brains. Those of us who struggle with food or other substances have a special group of voices in our brains that encourage us to indulge in the wrong or harmful behavior. We can do that, and keep doing it for a really long time. But if […]

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Voices in Our Brains

More on GERTRUDE! Food addiction is a force that functions in your mind and heart separately from your conscious thought or will. It is a composition of many areas of your life, some good, some bad, some awful. Many of your negative childhood experiences are recorded in Gertrude’s belief system, especially negative thoughts and ideas […]

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Introducing Gertrude

So, our topic again this week is about making changes. And one of the things that prevents me from making and maintaining changes is a nasty voice who lives in my head. Her name is Gertrude, and I can always tell it is her by how she talks, First, if I am speaking about me, […]

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Changes Are Hard Work

Changing anything in my life is hard work. Whatever it is, from bedtime to getting-up time, from breakfast through bedtime snack, being consistent with the change is hard work for me. Even when I know how good the change will be for me, even when I DECIDE to make the change, it is still hard […]

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Make A Change

Last week’s blog brought up so many feelings! We feel like there is only so much time in the day; if we don’t put that time on work stuff, we will be behind! And this, that and the other, all essential, won’t get done on time! That would, of course, be some kind of catastrophe! […]

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Self-care is the most important and most difficult part of my world, some days. It is so easy to get lost in all the debris and difficulties of running our lives and managing all the chaos and uncertainties of these days. Add maintaining abstinence and a solid recovery program, and there sometimes just doesn’t seem […]

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The Right Answer to the Wrong Question

I am often deeply moved by the client’s feelings about food “I cannot live without this food” and about the fear of other people’s opinion “What will they think of me? I can’t weigh and measure there!”  He said, “Ok, here we go again, back on another crazy diet” And she asked, “Can’t you have just […]

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