Today I want to talk to you about what you say when you speak to yourself and how it affects your food, eating, body weight and the power of addiction.
Food and eating are precious gifts to our bodies, minds, and spirits. In our journey into insane food behavior, we have lost the ability to recognize the true purpose of this gift. In the process from food addiction toward recovering we are in a process of rediscovering how to use food to nourish us, to treat the body with dignity and respect. As we emerge from our addictive behaviors, we begin to recognize and respect the true nature and intention of food – to nourish the body, fuel the mind and soothe the spirit.
Addiction is a force that functions in the mind and heart separately from the conscious thought or will. What we say when we talk to ourselves can lead us towards recovery or away from it. Our thoughts are often controlled by our addictions. Addictive thinking is involuntary, habitual, and often not in the conscious awareness. It’s very important that we learn to change our addictive thoughts into recovery thoughts.
There are three general types of addictive thinking:
- An unconscious involuntary distortion of the truth.
- Distorted perceptions of self or others.
- Protects the self from unacceptable awareness.
- Providing “good” plausible reasons instead of the true reason.
- May be silly, but made to sound reasonable.
- Diverts attention from the true reason.
- Placing blame on others for situations one is responsible for.
- Focuses attention on others rather then self.
- Allows avoidance of one’s responsibility for making changes.
Affirmations are powerful tools for changing the addictive mind’s habitual thoughts. These change the make up of the brain, making strong “challenges” to those habitual ingrained, addictive, negative thoughts. To be effective, an affirmation must be:
- Positive-with out negative words
- Present tense-not past or future tense
- Believable-for you, right now
It helps to make the affirmation:
- Focused on your current goals
- Less then 10 words long
- Specific or meaningful to your behavior
You will grow more rapidly if you state your affirmations multiple times a day; and push yourself regularly. Make them stronger as you grow. Perhaps you want to become strong, skilled and determined, but you do not see yourself as skilled yet. You might say:
I am willing to learn new skills; then progress to:
I am learning new skills;
I am practicing my new skills;
I am using my new skills;
I am becoming skilled; and finally,
I am skilled!
Take small steps and build up to bigger affirmations; you need to change the tape that plays in your mind to rid yourself of negative self talk, which often includes negative thoughts about: ourselves, our abilities, our self image, and what we believe we deserve out of life.
Write one goal down on a piece of paper or a sticky note. Along with that one goal, write one positive affirmation that you will use to help you reach that goal.
Put that piece of paper or sticky note somewhere you will see it every day:
- Bathroom Mirror
- Front Door, so you see it when you leave the house
- On your coffee maker
- In your car
- On your work computer
Or set an alarm on your phone to remind you every day, several times a day!
Sometimes it is necessary to use more then one skill to handle a situation. Adding “it’s OK” when you notice a negative statement helps till you get there.
“I made a mistake while I am learning my new skill – and that’s OK” helps counteract the idea of beating yourself up for the mistake and uses the affirmation that you are learning a new skill at the same time.
Stop the negative thoughts. Tell your negative mind to be quiet. Be gentle with yourself – a step is still a step away from the pain of the addiction.
Blessings to you,