It is the holiday and everyone else is running around wrapping presents and baking cookies. And the food that always trips you up and gets you into a binge, or sets off your other self-destructive eating behaviors – it is there. In front of you. Tempting. Torturing you.
And the family member who says, “Can’t you have just one piece?” or
“O that is ridiculous! To never have chocolate again? No way.”
“Here, I made it for you. I know you love it. Just have one piece.”
And so, you do. One bite, one look, one smell, one unhelpful relative, and now the addiction lion is awakened. What to do?
Take four deep breaths. Let them out slowly. Move to a safer place. If you have eaten something, brush your teeth if you can. Rinse your mouth with water. Say a prayer. Say, “That was a mistake. This is the getting back on track time. What needs to happen to make me free?” Go do that. NOW.
You may NOT tell yourself “O f*** IT! Bring on the cheesecake, the chocolate pie, and the Christmas cookies!”
If you were driving from your home to dear old Aunt Tilly’s house, and you got a flat tire, would you keep driving on it till you got there? No, you would pull off to the side of the road, call Aunt Tilly so she won’t worry, and put on the spare. Would you go slash the other three tires instead? Would you bang on the car till it was badly dented all over? I don’t think so.
Would you call for help? From a strong person who loves you? From your repair shop? From AAA? I hope you would.
And when the flat tire has been changed, do you need to drive all the way back home to set out for Aunt Tilly’s? I think not.
But in the same way that you check your oil and fuel before you start on a trip, take the time to sit down and nourish yourself before every challenging event. Call a good friend or accountability partner. Read some pages of a supportive book. Ask HP if s/he or one of the angels or archangels could come to this event to guide and protect you. Perhaps s/he will hold her wings between you and the wrong foods, so you don’t have to look at them. Perhaps s/he can inspire you with the right words to say “NO”. Perhaps she can help you find some new or interesting people to be with.
When you find yourself in a struggle, remember the automobile story we started with. One error does not need to lead to disaster. Drink a big glass of water to wash the allergens out of your system. Brush your teeth and wash your hands if you can, to get rid of the smell. Deep breaths. Pray for help or protection or guidance. Call for human help.
Increase your program as you get back on track. Find a step to work. Find a gift to give, a kindness to be done, a problem to help solve, a needed service to do.
Speak kindly and lovingly to yourself. Remember – this is a physical allergy, and a year’s long behavior, not a moral weakness. You are a good and decent person, doing the best you can.
Recovery isn’t always perfect. Just do what is effective at keeping you safe and sane, and in seven days this tsunami will be over!
Blessings to you,