In the last blog, I talked about our goals for the New Year and how the things that will make us most happy are the things we struggle with the most. We talked about the difference between resolutions and intentions. We talked about goals, not resolutions, and behaviors, not ideals. And we talked about renewal, cleansing, and dedication.
So I made a little checklist, in a brand new journal, of course, for each of the seven things I want to focus on this year. Then I realized that the checklist was unrealistic! I need to make my goals be to do the “chores” only five days a week, not seven, to give myself space to not be perfect. Now it is true, to reach some of my goals, it will take action seven days a week. But for others, five days a week will work. I needed to be realistic. And I need to make them be daily behaviors, not dreams.
Then I found a writing of my favorite author, Wayne Dyer. Let me share his thoughts with you.
“This day that you’re living right now is the only day you get. Period. You can resolve to be skinny when next July rolls around, or to quit smoking next month, or to write that book you’ve been meaning to, or to embark on your overdue exercise program by the end of this year. You can go about resolving until the cows come home, and you still have to live your life just like everyone else on the planet: One day at a time.
“The new year is a good time to initiate a plan so you can make some changes and help live your life to the fullest. See if you can practice thinking differently. Decide very specifically what it is that you would like to change about yourself in 2017. If you have some goals in mind, vow to work on them day by day rather than making them a year-long project.
”When you set up day-to-day goals for yourself, you can begin living this way for the rest of your life. Remember this little piece of advice, which will be extremely helpful to you if you can incorporate it into your life: When you go for one entire day without eating sugar (or not smoking, or being assertive, or any other new behavior), you are a totally different person at the end of that day. What you must learn to do is let that totally different person decide on the second day whether to do it again on this new day, rather than letting the same old person decide today that it is going to be difficult in a couple of days anyhow, so what’s the use. Always let the New You make the decision, and then you’ll be living your present moments.”
I love this idea. That I can change my mind, and think from the person I WANT to become, rather than the person I want to grow beyond. This is SO PRECIOUS to me because it teaches me to practice being the new me and to allow myself to grow into that new person naturally.
“Remember, you are in control of all thoughts in your head. When you are using up your present moments to worry about the future, constantly reviewing the past to come up with how you should have done it differently, or contemplating disaster, remind yourself that you are wasting this particular present moment.”
I am? Really? I can control the thoughts in my head? And whatever I think about and focus on will be drawn into my life? Wonderful. But doing that is tough. So that is next week’s blog.
This week I am going back to cleaning up clutter, revising the food plan book, being in better contact with certain friends, and setting up the programs for the New Year. What are you doing this week to move you towards your goals? What have you been procrastinating about? What really needs to get done in your life this year and what can you do about it right now, today?
And what can I or Renaissance do that would help you? A course? A program? A support group? What topics do you need? We have requests for programs about boundaries, relapse, and creating a strong support group. What do you need? What would help you?
The quotes above are from The Power of Intention, chapter 3, by Dr Wayne W. Dyer
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